How To Talk a Man Into Bondage and Submission Games?

Maybe you’ve visited bondage forums and perused the wide array of bondage accessories from your favorite sensual accessory retailer, and you’ve discovered that your ramblings have awakened something in you. You’d like to explore the world of sexual submission yourself, fulfilling your newly awakened fantasies of sexual dominance. You’re not sure if your man would go along with this, though, and you’re wondering how you can broach the subject of sexual submission with him.

Be prepared for the possibility that he’s just not into sexual submission. Bondage and submission play has to be consensual; if both parties aren’t comfortable with this territory, it’s going to be unpleasant for you both. That said, the best way to find out for sure if he’s willing to help you realize your fantasies and engage in sexual submission is to talk openly with him. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

How To Talk a Man Into Bondage and Submission Games?

Talk to him about the feelings you’ve experienced and what’s brought you to this point. Explain to him what you think you’d get out of realizing your fantasies of sexual dominance. Tell him what you think he’d find enjoyable about engaging in sexual submission. Take things slow. Reassure him that you don’t intend to start with him naked and spread-eagled on a St. Andrews Cross. Discuss the different ways you can explore sexual submission together gently, with easy restraint play that will be physically and emotionally comfortable for him. Offer to take turns during your night of sexual submission play, allowing him to be in the role of the dominator so that you can both experience the delights of both the dominance and submission roles.

If you’re open about the sexual submission activities you want to explore, you’re most likely going to discover that your man’s open to at least trying it. Keep your sexual submission play relaxed and gentle your first few times, until you both discover what activities you most enjoy. Keep your communication about your sexual fantasies and needs open and honest, and good things are likely to happen for both of you.